Seeking Validation

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Most times in our lives, all we seek is people’s validation, That hint in their eyes, a sign of approval, of their recognition, Like living and being yourself needs everyone’s permission, We second-guess our decisions, to ensure their satisfaction, We shrink with anxiety and fear of another person’s opinion, We go to great lengths to provide everyone an explanation, Of our choices, our decisions, our reasoning, our every action. And let fear of disapproval and criticism become our only motivation. Do we ever stop to ask ourselves how we are fairing? Or how much our addiction to attention leaves us suffering? Do we ever hear our voices or we just are never listening? Do we realize how much it holds us back and the time we’re wasting? Why is it too difficult to focus on what it is that we love doing? To get in touch with what matters to us, and what’ll make life fulfilling? Why can’t we make being ourselves as natural as breathing? Who said we need everyone to agree that we’ve excelled in something? We can be, and indeed are the greatest source of our happiness, You are the right person for that job whether or not you make a mess, Don’t let your need for approval affect your performance and success, You don’t need to look to others to feel good about yourself or to progress, Don’t be stuck doing something you don’t enjoy just to try and impress, Even under such pressure, you can build a sense of self-acceptance nonetheless, Acknowledge the times you’ve been true to yourself, appreciate such boldness. Let success be doing what’s important to you and life’ll be much more effortless Make never seeking validation from others your eleventh commandment, Don’t let your performance anxiety paralyze your true self like an ailment, Don’t be too shy and introverted, wear self-confidence like a garment, You can’t please everyone, people will show disrespect and resentment, No matter what you do to impress them, focus on your personal fulfillment, Speak your opinions, learn to say no, there’s no shame in being different, See disapproval as a chance to improve your performance, not as a deterrent, Be honest with yourself, embrace learning and focus on constant improvement.

 

©Maina

ADDICTION TO VALIDATION

Pastor Lucy Paynter

SEEKING VALIDATION

Most times in our lives, all we seek is people’s validation,

That hint in their eyes, a sign of approval, of their recognition,

Like living and being yourself needs everyone’s permission,

We second-guess our decisions, to ensure their satisfaction,

We shrink with anxiety and fear of another person’s opinion,

We go to great lengths to provide everyone an explanation,

Of our choices, our decisions, our reasoning, our every action.

And let fear of disapproval and criticism become our only motivation.
Do we ever stop to ask ourselves how we ourselves are fairing?

Or how much our addiction to attention leaves us suffering?

Do we ever hear our own voices or we just are never listening?

Do we realize how much it holds us back and the time we’re wasting?

Why is it too difficult to focus on what it is that we love doing?

To get in touch…

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ADDICTION TO VALIDATION

SEEKING VALIDATION

Most times in our lives, all we seek is people’s validation,

That hint in their eyes, a sign of approval, of their recognition,

 Like living and being yourself needs everyone’s permission,

We second-guess our decisions, to ensure their satisfaction,

We shrink with anxiety and fear of another person’s opinion,

We go to great lengths to provide everyone an explanation,

Of our choices, our decisions, our reasoning, our every action.

And let fear of disapproval and criticism become our only motivation.
Do we ever stop to ask ourselves how we ourselves are fairing?

Or how much our addiction to attention leaves us suffering?

Do we ever hear our own voices or we just are never listening?

Do we realize how much it holds us back and the time we’re wasting? 

Why is it too difficult to focus on what it is that we love doing?

To get in touch with what matters to us, and what’ll make life fulfilling?

Why can’t we make being ourselves as natural as breathing?

Who said we need everyone to agree that we’ve excelled in something?
We can be, and indeed are the greatest source of our happiness,

You are the right person for that job whether or not you make a mess,

Don’t let your need for approval affect your performance and success,

You don’t need to look to others to feel good about yourself or to progress,

Don’t be stuck doing something you don’t enjoy just to try and impress,

Even under such pressure, you can build a sense of self-acceptance nonetheless,

Acknowledge the times you’ve been true to yourself, appreciate such boldness.

Let success be doing what’s important to you and life’ll be much more effortless 
Make never seeking validation from others your eleventh commandment,

Don’t let your performance anxiety paralyze your true self like an ailment,

Don’t be too shy and introverted, wear self-confidence like a garment,

You can’t please everyone, people will show disrespect and resentment,

No matter what you do to impress them, focus on your personal fulfillment,

Speak your opinions, learn to say no, there’s no shame in being different,

See disapproval as a chance to improve your performance not as a determent,

Be honest with yourself, embrace learning and focus on constant improvement.

©PETER MAINA

The higher the building, the deeper the foundation.

Sometimes we wonder why some take so long before realizing their gifts or talents. Other times we struggle to get to the peak of success in a speedy way. Living in a racing world and in an electron…

Source: The higher the building, the deeper the foundation.

The higher the building, the deeper the foundation.

Sometimes we wonder why some take so long before realizing their gifts or talents.

Other times we struggle to get to the peak of success in a speedy way.

Living in a racing world and in an electronic era, we tend to forget that babies are not automatically grown from birth to adulthood.

There is birth, nurturing, growth from level to level unto maturity.The same applies to talents, gifts, and callings.

The higher the expectations, the deeper the foundation.

Jesus Christ lived for 30 years before His ministry of 3 years.The impact is felt up to today.

Noah built an ark for 120 years; that was used for 40 days.It’s not the time spent in preparation that matters but how efficient ist the outcome, after all, is said and done.

Remember for one story building you just need to lay a foundation for sky scrappers the foundations are dug deeper and deeper before the building goes up and up.

Establish your foundations, and the storms of life will not shake you.

©Pastor Lucy Paynter.

 

 

 

 

 

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Be RELEVANT

Everyone has a need to be needed.

Sometimes the people who needed you may need you no more,

When it dawns own you that you are no longer useful to them anymore,

Take account of your stay or time spent with them.

Transition to the next level of assignment has been the root of stress to many,

Change has been unacceptable to many even when change is inevitable,

A mother who can not let go of her grown up children still wants to feed them check on them, and soon it becomes a source of conflicts……Mamas let go, them .give em space and remain relevant to them.In times of need, they will call and say, mamma, I love you or mama I need your advice.

Fathers, It goes without saying, not many would do like the father of the prodigal son, Many wants to give inheritance to your children on your death bed. Unfortunately, many die before writing a will and all the wealth accumulated over your years is dispersed and gone within a short while. Let go and remain relevant to em ,

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Bounce… Back …From… Rejection…..

I Love You. Go Away.

It’s not you. It’s me.
I swear it’s not you. It’s me.
Well, it’s a little you.
Who am I kidding? It’s so you.
In fact, if you weren’t you, we would still be us.

Does this sound familiar? Have you been the recipient of this peppy little oratory? It’s called rejection, and if you have a pulse, you’ve probably experienced it.

Someone once told me that life is merely a series of rejections until we reach the end when life itself rejects us, and we die. He wasn’t a glass-half-full kind of guy. But he had a point.

Rejection takes many forms: The baseball team, the credit card, the college, the club, the clique, the loan, the job. All of these and so much more are fraught with the danger of rejection.

But then there’s the mama of all rejections. The bone-crushing, soul-sapping, mind-blowing, heartbreaking rejection. And it usually starts with these words: “I love you.” And it ends with: “Go away.”

Well, maybe not those exact words, but the meaning is clear. A moment ago, I thought you were the love of my life, but now I know you’re the mistake of my life. In other words, don’t let the door hit you on the way out.

And there we stand, the rejectees, our mouths hanging open, our hips bruised from being blindsided. We didn’t see it coming. Didn’t you just say how wonderful I am? Wasn’t love mentioned just hours ago? Didn’t I recently hear something about being beautiful, perfect, a soul mate?

And after we recover from the initial shock and can draw breath again, we might negotiate: I don’t have to be me, we might say. I can change, be a whole different me. Anything not to be rejected by you.

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Smile …..It cost nothing……..

It is not the great things you promise to do that matters but the small deed of kindness speaks volumes.
Share a smile today.
Hold the door for someone.
Give your ears to someone and listen to them not just hearing them talk but listen.  It can make all the difference.

@ Lucy Paynter.14440616_674666372708024_2490908298406738644_n

Overview of the book of Joshua

The Hesitant Prize Fighter

A friend requested me to help her with an overview of the book of Joshua, so, instead of writing just to her, i decided to post it on my blog as well.

Historical Context Of The Book Of Joshua

The stories in the book of Joshua takes place exactly after the death of Moses, God appeared to Joshua to encourage him to lead the people into the promise land. By then the Israelites have already wandered in the wilderness for 40 years. Moses died on Mount Nebo after giving his final sermon in the book of Deuteronomy.

Joshua prepared the people to cross over to the Jordan, and lead 2 military campaign against the 7 tribes of Canaan. The book ended up with Joshua dividing the territories among the 12 tribes and his final address to the people before his death.

Sadly Joshua did not appoint a leader to follow…

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